More than one child is sexually abused every minute in the UK - this is based on NSPCC figures. There were 73,518 police recorded offences including rape, online grooming and sexual assault against children in the UK in 2019/20.  The Children’s Commissioner say that only 1 in 8 children report.
73,518 x 8 = 588,144 / 365 = 1611; that is 1,611 children a day, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.  There are 1440 minutes in the day.  Therefore, more than 1 child a minute is sexually abused in the UK.

Because the impact of trauma is held in the body - as well as the mind - the healing of child sexual abuse happens most effectively when both mind and body are involved. Pesso Boyden System of Psychotherapy (PBSP) is a body-based therapy.

As Bessel Van der Kolk - renowned trauma specialist said of Al Pesso's work, when talking about Trauma and Abandonment: “It’s the only thing that I feel really works, and that’s the stuff I learned from Al Pesso, [which] is to actually give people a visceral experience of what it would have been like as a small kid to have people be there for you.

In his book The Body Keeps the Score, Bessel van der Kolk also said, “The healing tableaus of [PBSP] structures offer an experience that many participants would have never believed was possible for them: to be welcomed into a world where people delight in them, protect them, meet their needs and make you feel at home.”

PBSP has a comprehensive theoretical framework for working with child sexual abuse. This impacts bottom up, brain stem responses, reflexes and automatic survival patterns as well as with the top down parts, involved in thinking, speaking, and our current emotional awareness.

Juliet shares a Pesso Boyden System of Psychotherapy model: the 10 themes that commonly arise when working with people who were sexually abused as children. Juliet shows short film clips, which are extracts of client sessions, to give a powerful illustration of how PBSP works with the body.

Whilst recognising that the majority of people attending this talk will not be trained PBSP therapists, Juliet hopes to alert them to some of the more obscure needs of clients who are dealing with these issues.

For those therapists wishing to experience a PBSP session, or send their clients to a PBSP therapist for one session visit

For therapists interested in attending a post graduate training of one year or three years, to become a PBSP therapist, visit

    1. Please read prior to beginning the talk

    2. Part one: Introduction; Pesso Boyden System of Psychotherapy; Bessel van der Kolk; purpose for this talk; why PBSP is effective; poem: The Medical Room by William Ayot.

    3. Part two: Statistics in the UK; Pesso Boyden thinking; trauma in the body; ten topics from Al Pesso; loss of control; creating new experience with PBSP; roles of ‘the witness’ & the figures; feelings of fear and terror; integrating healthy protection.

    4. Part three: Experience of pain, hurt and sadness; a video showing a Pesso Boyden structure client session.

    5. Part four: Revenge; acting out vengeful feelings in a symbolic way; another film clip showing revenge in a structure.

    6. Part five: Analysis of the previous film clip; expression of eroticism, receptivity and openness; putting limits on the openness; the ego and the soul; re-integrating client’s sexual energy.

    7. Part six: The impulse and expression of hate and murder; a film clip demonstrating a powerful expression of anger.

    8. Part seven: Increase of guilt, shame, and the desire for punishment; allowing the impulse but stopping the action; love for the abuser.

    9. Part eight: Need for an antidote relationship; another film clip demonstrating an antidote relationship.

    10. Part nine: A final clip demonstrating power and vulnerability, and showing ideal parents; processing after the film clips to clear the energy.

    11. Part ten: A Q&A with the live viewers.

    12. Part eleven: Final words, info about PBSP training, poem: Otherwise by William Ayot.

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    1. Resources PDF

    1. Feedback form and certificate

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Juliet Grayson is an experienced couples therapist, trainer, facilitator, and coach. Her work has been distilled out of a twenty-five year exploration of the ways in which people limit themselves, both personally and professionally.
Having specialised in working with relationship and sexual issues since 1994, she decided to write a book :Landscapes of the Heart: the working world of a sex and relationship therapist, published April 2016. She used to write for the Huffington Post, and has done many radio a few TV appeareances.

She designed and, with her team, runs a six module course on How to Work With Couples: for therapists who usually work one to one. She combines her extensive business experience - she ran her own company for fifteen years, and a second company for twenty years - with a profound knowledge of NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming), PBSP (Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor) and a deep understanding of systemic thinking.
Juliet is known in training circles for her warmth, for the thoroughness of her trainings, and for her ability to maintain a sense of fun whilst challenging those behaviours that call for a change.

She is a fully qualified psychosexual psychotherapist (UKCP Registgered, NLPtCA Acc and COSRT Acc), and a recognised supervisor (NLPtCA and COSRT) and a PBSP trainer. She has a private practice in Chepstow, South Wales.

Juliet Grayson


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