Please read prior to beginning the talk
Introduction to course; definitions of shame; repairing the interpersonal and intrapersonal bridge.
Part one: Lyon and Rubin’s four realms in treating shame: thinking, feeling, imagining, relating, + the compassionate guide added by Juliet and William; common shame reactions; relating to the client; normalising the shame; managing shame within.
Part two: The freezing response to shame; fight, flight, freeze; triggered by another’s shame & knowing what to look out for; breathing & the parasympathetic nervous system; taking responsibility for your nervous system; The Pesso Boyden System.
FREE PREVIEWPart three: Tonic immobility; psychoeducation; Danse Macabre by William Ayot; responding to the client’s survival state appropriately; disconnection in the freeze state; addressing the freeze state first.
Part four: Moving from freeze to connection and finding movement; the therapist being aware/conscious of their own actions; activating a right brain-right brain connection; self modulating between the relating and the feeling; The Bridge by William Ayot.
Part five: Re-shaming of people by those who have been shamed; stepping in and out of shame; assessing shame in the therapy room; awareness of shame triggers, Flashback by William Ayot; reframing shame; focusing on the body & its intelligence.
Part six: Q&A; projecting and habitual shaming; managing shame in a client with no memory of the source; differentiating between fear of shame and the shame itself; Juliet’s recollection of feeling toxic shame.
Part seven: Q&A part two; being shame avoidant; adult children of alcoholics and shame in addiction; more on psychoeducation; the client who is addicted to the pain of shame; Pietàs by William Ayot, closing of the course.
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Resources: The poems that were read; the 5 aspects model in treating shame; links to other Shame courses, workshops, relevant websites and our mailing list.
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