Juliet Grayson & William Ayot's Recorded Offerings

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Shame Episode 6 Part 1: Journey from toxic shame to healthy guilt. Define shame. Healthy shame is designed to socialise us. Shame ‘I am wrong’, guilt ‘I did wrong’, or didn’t live up to my own standards. 6 mins

Shame Episode 6 Part 2: Prevalence of shame. Benefits of healthy shame. The qualities of a guide through the path out of shame. Long steady process. Shame between parent and child flipping. 6 mins

Shame Episode 6 Part 3: Self compassion versus self esteem. Poem Opening a Door by William Ayot. Tolerate discomfort builds resilience. Kristin Neff’s statistics on compassion. The 3 legs of compassion. 10 mins

Shame Episode 6 Part 4: If you are the only one who can’t be fixed, that is a negative inflation. Self compassion is self kindness, mindfulness and common humanity. Shame and empathy. Being allowed to sit in shame. Rescuing. 8 mins

Shame Episode 6 Part 5: Some clients shy away from the word shame. Alternative words. Create a shared working definition of shame and guilt with your client. Shame is in the body as well as the head. A Model for Treating Shame: 9 mins

Shame Episode 6 Part 6: Aspect 2: feeling. Aspect 3: imagining. Pick an object to represent shame. The lemon visualisation. Slow everything down. 8 mins

Shame Episode 6 Part 7: Self soothing. Breathing. Dropping the tone of voice. Poem: Back to the Numbers by William Ayot. What you can do physically over zoom. Clients who hold a cushion. 7 mins

Shame Episode 6 Part 8: Aspect 4: relating. Normalising. Self revelation to an appropriate level. You are not alone, you impact me. Examples of interpersonal relational questions. Aspect 5: guiding. Exercise: writing a letter. 7 mins

Shame Episode 6 Part 9: Writing about yourself in the third person to find a compassionate place. Poem: Take Her Down by William Ayot. Example of using the 5 Aspects Model with a client. Shifting physiology. 10 mins

Shame Episode 6 Part 10: If this was your friend? Pesso Boyden Ideal Parent Visualisation (this is a ‘free preview’ - go to the Pesso Boyden Techniques 1 to watch free of charge). Gesture to throw away the shame. Stalking the shame. 5 mins

Shame Episode 6 Part 11: Moving to healthy guilt. Assess seriousness. Make a pie chart of responsibltiies. Make reparation to rebuild the inter-personal bridge. Poem: Breaking the Silence by William Ayot. 11 mins

This is the audio version of Treating Shame: Tools and Techniques, in one unbroken audio version. 1 hour 35 mins

Treating Shame, Tools and Techniques: The unbroken video - i.e. 1 hour 30 mins continuous

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