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We continue our series "Exploring Shame" with a look at the way shame triggers and induces both our drives and our dysfunction. Behind the success of a thrusting executive or the downcast expression of a shrinking non-achiever, we can often find the same overwhelming shadow of shame. William Ayot and Juliet Grayson explore what shame can activate – addiction, workaholism violence, perfectionism, or anti-social behavior.

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    Exploring Shame - Episode 2: The Engine of Shame in short segments. 1 hour 16 mins total

    • Please read this before moving on to the next part.

    • Shame Episode 2 Part 1: Shame brings clients to therapy but many therapists don’t work with it. 8 minutes.

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    • Shame Episode 2 Part 2: Bringing shame into the light. Shame from our families of origin. 7 minutes.

    • Shame Episode 2 Part 3: Intentional shaming. Shame & education. Family labels. Lack of response & covert shaming. Needs not met. 8 minutes.

    • Shame Episode 2 Part 4: Sources of Shame. 10 minutes.

    • Shame Episode 2 Part 5: Further sources of shame.

    • Shame Episode 2 Part 6: Stuckness. Suicide. Naming goodness. The consequences of shame. 6 minutes.

    • Shame Episode 2 Part 7: Shame drives anger & addictions. The squirrel cage. 7 minutes.

    • Shame Episode 2 Part 8: Further consequences. Compass of shame. 10 minutes.

    • Shame Episode 2 Part 9: Pre-verbal shame. Shame buckets. Lack of awareness & denial of shame. Be kind to yourself.

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    This is the audio version of The Engine of Shame: Episode 2 of Exploring Shame 1 hour 16 minutes

    • This is the audio version of The Engine of Shame: Episode 2 of Exploring Shame 1 hour 15 minutes
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Leonie Johnstone

I learnt about the sources of shame, shame based backgrounds,and made connections to my own experience. Also the intensity of shame/emotions. I loved the way two of you work together, very warm and relaxed. I felt part of it.

Speakers

Speakers

Juliet Grayson and William Ayot

JULIET GRAYSON has worked as a psychotherapist since 1991. She specialises in working with couples and sexual problems. As a psychotherapist she is UKCP registered, NLPtCA accredited, COSRT accredited, and a PBSP accredited Trainer. WILLIAM AYOT is an award-winning poet, author, teacher and ritualist. Over three decades he has hosted and led, men’s and mixed personal development events and rites of passage. He uses poetry and the arts to teach leadership in boardrooms and business schools around the world, currently teaching on the Advanced Management Programme at INSEAD. William designs and leads bespoke rituals for individuals. He is available for one-to-one coaching online.

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