Exploring Shame Series 1, Episode 4: Shame & Relationships (80 mins)

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2. Shame Episode 4 Part 1: Shame as part of the currency of the family. When parents love a version that is not really her, that is shame inducing. We may walk through the door of our parent’s home as a child, not as an adult. 5 minutes.
3. Shame Episode 4 Part 2: How to react to presents you don’t like. Rules & Christmas rituals in different families. Passing the shame on. The sadness of not being seen. Puberty as a threat to parents. Words around shame that people can accept . 5 mins.
4. Shame Episode 4 Part 3: Family history affects our predisposition to shame. Different tribes, prejudices, and values. The 80:20 rule. Mis-attunement. 5 mins
5. Shame Episode 4 Part 4: The gender divide. Anger or tears instead of shame. Chores: he likes to rest & then do chores, she liked to do chores & then rest. Demand anxiety. Communicate so your partner can hear. 8 mins
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6. Shame Episode 4 Part 5: Humour & shame. Negative assumptions. Respecting our differences. We are one. Shyness and shame. A penetrating parent. Shyness shuts down spontaneity. Being exposed. The artists dilemma. Celebrity shamelessness. 8 mins
7. Shame Episode 4 Part 6: Self worth. Examples of blessing. New relationships. Telling someone about this shameful part of my history. Telling too much too soon. Shame by association. 5 mins
8. Shame Episode 4 Part 7: The shame of ageing. Feeling like too much for your partner. Ageing & shame. Shame rules in dysfunctional families. Secrecy, Perfectionism. Blame. 5 mins
9. Shame Episode 4 Part 8: Virginia Satir - 5 Freedoms. Don’t talk. Don't make mistakes. Shame passed down the generations. Don’t say sorry. Don’t trust. 6 mins
10. Shame Episode 4 Part 9: Shame bound families & conflict. Heartfelt apology to dissipate tension. Compliments can trigger shame. Poem “Two ways of looking at the world." 7 mins
11. Shame Episode 4 Part 10: What to do when being shamed. Old roles & families of origin (FOO). Get strong before you stand up to your FOO. Shame isnot a life sentence. Self soothe and self-regulate. See self thru shining eyes of parent. 8 mins
12. Shame Episode 4 Part 11: When dealing with own children don’t be perfect. Make mistakes, it gives permission. Terry Real’s model: How to give feedback to your partner. 3 mins
13. Shame Episode 4 Part 12: Normal is not normal. Question: feedback with someone who experiences that as criticism. Pendulation. Using the 4 realms. Love ‘em up good. Attachment theory. Being grounded our body as therapists. Naming & blessing. 6 mins
14. Shame Episode 4 Part 13: Under anger is a wound, inside blame is shame. Wrapping shame in anger. Shame thrives in the dark. Naming shame gives dimension. Shame to vulnerability. Anger begets anger, softness can beget softness. 6 mins
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Speakers

Juliet Grayson has worked as a psychotherapist since 1991. She specialises in working with couples and sexual problems. As a psychotherapist she is UKCP registered, NLPtCA accredited, and a PBSP accredited Trainer.

William Ayot is an award-winning poet, author, teacher and ritualist. Over three decades he has hosted and led, men’s and mixed personal development events and rites of passage. He uses poetry and the arts to teach leadership in boardrooms and business schools around the world, currently teaching on the Advanced Management Programme at INSEAD. William designs and leads bespoke rituals for individuals, and is available for one-to-one coaching online.