In this two-hour Masterclass, expert Juliet Grayson takes us through the many aspects that will affect couples after an affair. This talk will be beneficial for all therapists who work with couples and those who work one to one. 

Juliet covers topics such as:
Clarifying what monogamy means to a couple;
Is extra marital sex a problem?;
Negative effects & consequences of an affair;
The therapist’s job after an affair;
William Ayot and Juliet talk about shame as it relates to affairs;
The importance of helping couples master their anxiety;
Different kinds of affairs;
Thoughts from couple therapists
Nicola Jones & Lottie Passell-Syms;
Triggers for an affair;
Emotional fusion as applied to affairs;
Lies, secrecy and confrontation;
Trust and jealousy;
Saying sorry;
Rebuilding the relationship after an affair.

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Dealing With Affairs is a live in person (online) workshop.

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    After the Affair: Rebuilding Relationships After Infidelity

    • Please read prior to beginning the course

    • Part 1: Introduction; prevalence of affairs; entering dangerous territory; what does monogamy mean?; is extra-marital sex a problem?; possible negative effects of an affair; consequences of having an affair.

    • Part two: The therapist’s job; shame with William Ayot.

    • Part three: The Pesso Boyden System of Psychotherapy; the therapist’s job continued; the three phases of a relationship; mastering the anxiety.

    • Part four: Kinds of affairs.

    • Part five: Conversation with Lottie Passell Syms & Nicola Jones; what do couple therapists need to know in relation to dealing with affairs?; therapist holding the hope; impact on children (adult/younger); confidentiality & secrecy with the therapist.

    • Part six: Triggers for having an affair.

    • Part seven: Emotional fusion and its impact on affairs; raising the couple’s differentiation; monogamy as a contract with oneself.

    • Part eight: Lies; should you reveal an affair?; why keep it secret?; finding out information; jealousy and trust; the perceived threat; after the affair.

    • Part nine: Re-checking your expectations; rebuilding the relationship; pair bonding behaviours; reminiscence sessions; saying sorry; Landscapes of the Heart.

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    Audio of the talk

    • After the Affair, audio

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    The full length video, uncut

    • After the Affair, full length

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    Feedback form and certificate

    • Feedback form and certificate



Juliet Grayson

Juliet Grayson is an experienced couples therapist, trainer, facilitator, and coach. Her work has been distilled out of a twenty-five year exploration of the ways in which people limit themselves, both personally and professionally. Having specialised in working with relationship and sexual issues since 1994, she decided to write a book :Landscapes of the Heart: the working world of a sex and relationship therapist, published April 2016. She used to write for the Huffington Post, and has done many radio a few TV appeareances. She designed and, with her team, runs a six module course on How to Work With Couples: for therapists who usually work one to one. She combines her extensive business experience - she ran her own company for fifteen years, and a second company for twenty years - with a profound knowledge of NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming), PBSP (Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor) and a deep understanding of systemic thinking. Juliet is known in training circles for her warmth, for the thoroughness of her trainings, and for her ability to maintain a sense of fun whilst challenging those behaviours that call for a change. She is a fully qualified psychosexual psychotherapist (UKCP Registgered, NLPtCA Acc and COSRT Acc), and a recognised supervisor (NLPtCA and COSRT) and a PBSP trainer. She has a private practice in Chepstow, South Wales.

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