1. Please read prior to beginning the talk

    2. Part one: Being a teenager; adults roles; what it’s like to be a teenager; what happens during teenagehood; helping teenagers on the journey to adulthood; adults conveying their values; conveying ‘useful’ values to teens; helping other adults to do that.

    3. Part two: Treating teenagers as young adults; think of an example of a teen problem where the teen might feel they’ve been treated like a child and think of a way of treating them like a young adult that you think will help solve the problem.

    4. Part three: Providing firm boundaries; a sanction to teach self-discipline; what sanctions should be; emulating how we were disciplined as teenagers; consider a situation where a boundary has been set but has not been abided.

    5. Part four: Role plays and scenarios; communication over sanctions.

    6. Part five: Negotiating boundaries; role play demonstrating negotiating boundaries.

    7. Part six: ‘How to get the best out of me’; giving the teenager control of their life; helping others do it differently; keeping communication channels open; four questions to explore and participant discussion of the first question.

    8. Part seven: Discussion around “who needs your interest?”; finding out the teen’s interests in the therapy room; asking teens for help/advice; encouraging adults to do these things; what is preventing the the parent from connecting with their teenager.

    9. Part eight: Discussion around parents with suicidal adolescents; an anecdote from Lucinda about a mother and suicidal teenage daughter; reporting suicidal thoughts and duty of care.

    10. Part nine: Good ways to communicate with teens; a role play with the teen dressing ‘inappropriately’ plus the participants’ comments; teens joining a ‘tribe’; parents stepping back; teenagers’ expression through what they wear; hard conversations.

    11. Part ten: How to build healthy self-esteem; giving teens feedback; role play and comments; using hyperboles such as ‘always’ and ‘never’; catching teenagers doing things right.

    12. Part eleven: Dealing with emotions; what we can do as adults to deal with the emotions of teenagers; name the feeling; role play and comments.

    13. Part twelve: Coping strategies for teens; a relaxation method; how to deal with emotions; an exercise to help deal with a problem; using your conscious mind to look into your subconscious mind.

    14. Part thirteen: Sex, drugs, alcohol, porn and the internet conversations; comments from the participants; concern through care rather than judgement.

    15. Part fourteen: Problem solving techniques; looking for the cause of the behaviour; a brainstorming process involving screen time in the family; summary of the key points, and some of the participants’ thoughts and main takeaway points.

    1. Listen here

    1. Day one of the workshop

    2. Day two of the workshop

    1. Powerpoint slides from the workshop

    2. Further resources for teens

    3. Normal sexual behaviour in children table

    4. Harmful sexual behaviour overview

    5. Harmful sexual behaviour flag system illustrated

    6. The Gender Unicorn

    7. Podcast - iPM: "I'm not a boy or a girl. I'm both"

    8. Advice for perfectionists

    9. Poem: What is Wrong with Today's Teens?

    10. Lucinda's page spread: Respect Yourself

    11. Lucinda's page spread: Self-talk

    12. Lucinda's page spread: Negative Voice/ Positive Voice

    13. Lucinda's page spread: How to Relax

    14. Lucinda's page spread: When Things Are Bad

    15. Lucinda's page spread: Getting Rid of Bad Memories

    1. Feedback form and certificate

About this course

  • £50.00
  • 340 mins
  • Downloadable audio
  • CPD certificate


Lucinda Neall has been training and coaching people in communication and motivation for over 30 years. Her work in the education sector, her passion for effective communication, and the birth of her son, prompted her to analyse what makes boys tick and how to motivate them.

As a result she wrote two books on the subject, Bringing the Best out in Boys – Communication Strategies for Teachers and About Our Boys, which was aimed at parents and community workers.  The books show that respect and communication make a difference and, by addressing issues earlier rather than later, we can assist boys to grow up into caring confident men. 
These can be purchased through the links above.

Lucinda Neall

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