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One: Being a teenager; adults' roles; what happens during teenagehood; helping teenagers on the journey to adulthood; adults conveying their values; conveying ‘useful’ values to teens; helping other adults to do that (22 mins)
Two: Treating teenagers as young adults; think of an example of a teen problem where the teen might feel they’ve been treated like a child and think of a way of treating them like a young adult that you think will help solve the problem (36 mins)
Three: Providing firm boundaries; a sanction to teach self-discipline; what sanctions should be; emulating how we were disciplined as teenagers; consider a situation where a boundary has been set but has not been abided (32 mins)
Four: Role plays and scenarios; communication over sanctions (31 mins)
Five: Negotiating boundaries; role play demonstrating negotiating boundaries (16 mins)
FREE PREVIEWSix: ‘How to get the best out of me’; giving the teenager control of their life; helping others do it differently; keeping communication channels open; four questions to explore and participant discussion of the first question (28 mins)
Seven: Discussion around “who needs your interest?”; finding out the teen’s interests in the therapy room; asking teens for help/advice; encouraging adults to do these things; what is preventing the the parent from connecting with their teenager (14 mins)
Eight: Discussion around parents with suicidal adolescents; an anecdote from Lucinda about a mother and suicidal teenage daughter; reporting suicidal thoughts and duty of care (24 mins)
Nine: Good ways to communicate with teens; a role play with the teen dressing ‘inappropriately’ plus the participants’ comments; teens joining a ‘tribe’; parents stepping back; teenagers’ expression through what they wear; hard conversations (16 mins)
Ten: How to build healthy self-esteem; giving teens feedback; role play and comments; using hyperboles such as ‘always’ and ‘never’; catching teenagers doing things right (19 mins)
Eleven: Dealing with emotions; what we can do as adults to deal with the emotions of teenagers; name the feeling; role play and comments (16 mins)
Twelve: Coping strategies for teens; a relaxation method; how to deal with emotions; an exercise to help deal with a problem; using your conscious mind to look into your subconscious mind (35 mins)
Thirteen: Sex, drugs, alcohol, porn and the internet conversations; comments from the participants; concern through care rather than judgement (17 mins)
Fourteen: Problem solving techniques; looking for the cause of the behaviour; a brainstorming process involving screen time in the family; summary of the key points, and some of the participants’ thoughts and main takeaway points (28 mins)
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Day one of the workshop (2 hours 20 mins)
Day two of the workshop (3 hours 20 mins)
Powerpoint slides from the workshop
Further resources for teens
Normal sexual behaviour in children table
Harmful sexual behaviour overview
Harmful sexual behaviour flag system illustrated
The Gender Unicorn
Podcast - iPM: "I'm not a boy or a girl. I'm both"
Advice for perfectionists
Poem: What is Wrong with Today's Teens?
Lucinda's page spread: Respect Yourself
Lucinda's page spread: Self-talk
Lucinda's page spread: Negative Voice/ Positive Voice
Lucinda's page spread: How to Relax
Lucinda's page spread: When Things Are Bad
Lucinda's page spread: Getting Rid of Bad Memories
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