Please read prior to beginning the talk
Part one: Introduction to the talk and the speakers; Juliet and William’s backgrounds and their separate journeys with shame
Part two: Toxic shame and shamelessness becoming endemic in our society; words we can connect with shame; physicalising the shame; The Thirteenth Chair by William Ayot
FREE PREVIEWPart three: Healthy shame vs toxic shame; developing healthy shame; reinstilling the moral fibre in those who have crossed a boundary; developing a sensitivity to others’ shame; awareness of our own behaviour in healthy shame; empathy for our own shame
Part four: Erik Erikson’s 8 stages of psychosocial development; autonomy vs shame & doubt in early childhood; parents building or destroying self-esteem; the freeze in toxic shame; Take her Down by William Ayot; the long lasting effect of shame
Part five: Definitions of shame from Gershen Kaufman, Carl Jung, Patricia DeYoung, Marilyn Mason & Merle Fossum, and Brené Brown; shame and identity; shame vs guilt; shame as hiding rather than broadcasting; naming shame
Part six: Q&A; can shame stop impacting your life?; ritual and letting go; shame and power; The Stick and the Stone by William Ayot; closing the talk.
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Resources: The poems William shared; links to other Shame talks, workshops, relevant websites and our mailing list; definitions of shame
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