Juliet Grayson works with sex offenders and was a founder of the charity StopSO: The Specialist Treatment Organisation for Perpetrators and Survivors of Sexual Offences. She was Chair from 2012-2019.
William Ayot began working with men in recovery, and has worked extensively with addicts and perpetrators in various settings. Successful therapy with perpetrators is hugely dependent on the therapeutic relationship. 
William and Juliet will be sharing thoughts about how to work with this client group, and how to support supervisees.

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    Compassion for the Perpetrator

    • Please read prior to beginning the course

    • Part one: Working with the perpetrators and introduction to the talk; toxic shame and the ever-present quality of shame; poem: The Empty room.

    • Part two: The supervisor and the supervisee; healing requiring a sense of aceptance; guilt vs shame; making it safe for people to come forward and get therapy before perpetrating.

    • Part three: Lowering your threshold of judgement; not scaring away the client when they open up; poem: Pandemic; reporting and proportionate responses.

    • Part four: Cultural shunning and shaming; compassion for those coming forward; conclusion.

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    Audio of the talk

    • Compassion for the Perpetrator audio

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    The full length video

    • Compassion for the Perpetrator, uncut

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    • Compassion for the Perpetrator resoruces

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    Feedback form and certificate

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Juliet Grayson and William Ayot

JULIET GRAYSON has worked as a psychotherapist since 1991. She specialises in working with couples and sexual problems. As a psychotherapist she is UKCP registered, NLPtCA accredited, COSRT accredited, and a PBSP accredited Trainer. WILLIAM AYOT is an award-winning poet, author, teacher and ritualist. Over three decades he has hosted and led, men’s and mixed personal development events and rites of passage. He uses poetry and the arts to teach leadership in boardrooms and business schools around the world, currently teaching on the Advanced Management Programme at INSEAD. William designs and leads bespoke rituals for individuals. He is available for one-to-one coaching online.

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