Poet William Ayot and psychotherapist Simon Roe help us to air our grief, explore the possibilities, and remember those we have lost over these last troubled and troubling years. Poetry is explored, and topics of discussion include grief’s connection to war, ancestral trauma, epigenetics, and manhood.

    1. Please read prior to beginning the talk

    2. Part one: Introduction to the talk and the speakers; retrieval and return of the soul; war reoccurring when we cannot grieve; poems by Wilfred Owen, Robert Bly and William Ayot.

    3. Part two: Getting in touch with our grief and ancestral trauma; what was your first experience of war?; inherited trauma and epigenetic; poem:’ On The Green’; women and war; the notion of the white feather.

    4. Part three: Poem: ’Tears on The Drum’; notions of manhood challenged during WWI; the conversation around ‘shell shock’; ideas about how a man should be; think about how the fear, cowardice and grief in men, your family and your ancestry is for you.

    5. Part four: Think of an ancestor or family member affected by the war - think about what happened to them and how their wound might impact you today; thoughts shared by the talk's participants; tradition; closing.

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  • £10.00
  • 45 mins
  • Downloadable audio
  • CPD certificate


Simon Roe originally trained as a body psychotherapist with Nick Totton & Em Edmondson and has nearly 30 years’ experience of working with individuals and groups. For the last 25 years’ he has worked almost exclusively with men & teenage boys in a variety of settings including 1-1 psychotherapy, domestic violence work and Rites of Passage events. He is a Respect approved trainer & supervisor for domestic violence practitioners and is the director of Two Wolves Consultancy and Training:

Simon has recently completed a foundation course in Process Oriented Psychology – an approach which increasingly informs his practice.

Simon is a fully accredited member of the Association of Facilitators:

Simon Roe


William Ayot is an award-winning poet, author, teacher and ritualist. Over three decades, he has organized, hosted, facilitated and led, men’s and mixed personal development events and rites of passage, working in rehab, correctional, personal development and organizational contexts. He uses poetry and the arts to teach leadership in boardrooms and business schools around the world, currently teaching on the Advanced Management Programme at INSEAD. William also designs and leads bespoke rituals for individuals and groups in his purpose-built ritual garden in Monmouthshire, Wales. Writing includes the play, Bengal Lancer, three collections of poetry, and a prose book on ritual. He is currently writing a book for and about men in a time of epochal change. William leads personal rituals for people in person, designs rituals for people from all over the world, and is available for one-to-one coaching online.

William Ayot