Course curriculum

We start exploration into shame with the topic: hiding in plain sight. Shame inhibits the simplest of social interactions, and yet we often fail to recognise it for what it is. William Ayot and Juliet Grayson peel back the curtains of denial and minimisation that can shield us from the agony of toxic shame. Defining and dissecting the many shades of shame allows us to recognise its insidious effects in ourselves and others. Video.

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    Exploring Shame: Episode 1: The Hidden Face of Shame in short segments

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    This is the audio version of the Hidden Face of Shame: Episode 1. 1 hour 15 mins

    • The Hidden Face of Shame: Exploring Shame Episode 1: Audio

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    This is the same video (Hidden Face of Shame) in one unbroken piece for those who prefer to watch 1 hour 15 minutes together

    • The Hidden Face of Shame: The unbroken video - i.e. 1 hour 15 mins continuous

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    Feedback and Certificate of Completion

    • Please give feedback. NB A Certificate of Completion is released once feedback form has been filled in.

What people say about The Hidden Face of Shame

The poetry adds so much!

Comments from the audience of the live talk

Love the combination of theory and poetry, which works so powerfully. This has resonated with me deeply. Thank you.

You are both so easy to listen to


I love your teaching style Juliet. This is the first time I have 'met' William. You both complement each other beautifully in the way. William, your poetry and your authenticity touch me. You are both an inspiration.


Lee Roethenbaugh

I found the talk really insightful. The personal experiences of shame added a dimension to a potent topic that shoild not be hidden away.

Warm and Open

Leonie Johnstone

Love the presentation style, warm and open. Also love the interaction between you both and William's insights and poems.


Comments from the audience of the live talk

Brilliant workshop. Thought provoking. Love the poems. Love the openness. Can’t wait to watch the next shame module.

A surprisingly non-shame inducing exploration!

Shadow GB

EXCELLENT. An incredibly well presented thoughtful exploration of a difficult subject. A surprisingly non shame inducing exploration of shame.



Juliet Grayson & William Ayot

JULIET GRAYSON has worked as a psychotherapist since 1991. She specialises in working with couples and sexual problems. As a psychotherapist she is UKCP registered, NLPtCA accredited, COSRT accredited, and a PBSP accredited Trainer. WILLIAM AYOT is an award-winning poet, author, teacher and ritualist. Over three decades he has hosted and led, men’s and mixed personal development events and rites of passage. He uses poetry and the arts to teach leadership in boardrooms and business schools around the world, currently teaching on the Advanced Management Programme at INSEAD. William designs and leads bespoke rituals for individuals. He is available for one-to-one coaching online.

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    We continue our exploration with a look at the way shame triggers and induces both our drives and our dysfunction. Behind the success of a thrusting executive or the downcast expression of a shrinking non-achiever, we can often find the same overwhelming shadow of shame. In this interactive event, William Ayot and Juliet Grayson will be exploring what shame can activate – addiction, workaholism violence, perfectionism, or anti-social behaviour.
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