Boys! Understanding where boys are coming from, how to talk to them and how to motivate them, with Lucinda Neall (240 mins)
For therapists whose clients struggle with boisterous boys
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Part one: Introduction; treating the child in front of you as an individual; characteristics of boys; attention seeking behaviour; what boys value; what boys need (27 mins)
Part two: Boys being accepted, respected, and admired; how can men be good role models?; making everything into a game (14.5 mins)
Part three: Discussion around the statement ‘men are not large boys; boys are little men and need to be treated as such’ (17 mins)
Part four: The qualities in adults boys best respond to; how does being firm, fair and fun increase engagement and cooperation in boys?; the supression of male energy vs the chanelling of male energy; boundaries; sanctions (28 mins)
Part five: Male pride; covering up a fragile inner self; respect and honour; sanctions to teach self-discipline (22 mins)
Part six: A role play and participant discussion; observing and reflecting, but avoiding over-analysing (10 mins)
FREE PREVIEWPart seven: Partcipants’ thoughts on what has been discussed during the workshop so far; male competition; building a father/son relationship (29.5 mins)
Part eight: Perceptions of boys and girls vs reality; expressing emotions; participant groups discuss ways they could encourage boys to express their feelings (26.5 mins)
Part nine: Communication strategies; a role play setting up a scenrio to find out what the boy is feeling (33 mins)
Part ten: Nagging; avoiding nagging; sex, drugs, alcohol, porn and the internet; consent and modelling consent; participants’ feedback on the workshop (29 mins)
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Harmful Sexual Behaviour in Children Flag System
Normal Sexual Behaviour in Childhood
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