This talk encompasses a series of lenses we can look at our life and experiences through. Juliet and William explore the topics of presence, the four perceptional positions, the shadow and the choices we have, dissociation, synesthesia, introversion & extroversion.

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    The Four Ways of Being

    • Please read prior to beginning the course

    • Part one: Introduction; mysteries and initiation; happiness; not being present in life; poems: The Night Ship and Bitter Sweet.

    • Part two: Dissociation and presence; a small exercise involving connecting to your body; poem: Present.

    • Part three: Neuro-linguistic programming perspective and the four perceptual positions - I, you, he/she, we.

    • Part four: Poem: Bandwidth; the shamanistic lens and different perspectives of looking at the world; explanation of the shadow; the shadow of the 4 different positions.

    • Part five: Dissociation; poem: Back to the Numbers; the places where you may disconnect from your experience; synesthesia.

    • Part six: Introversion and extraversion; some questions to consider; poem: Wireless; conclusion and poem: There’s Nothing Like a Good Opening.

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    Audio of the talk

    • The Four Ways of Being audio

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    The full length video, uncut

    • The Four Ways of Being, full length video

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    • Resources PDF

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    Feedback form and certificate

    • Feedback form and certificate



Juliet Grayson and William Ayot

JULIET GRAYSON has worked as a psychotherapist since 1991. She specialises in working with couples and sexual problems. As a psychotherapist she is UKCP registered, NLPtCA accredited, COSRT accredited, and a PBSP accredited Trainer. WILLIAM AYOT is an award-winning poet, author, teacher and ritualist. Over three decades he has hosted and led, men’s and mixed personal development events and rites of passage. He uses poetry and the arts to teach leadership in boardrooms and business schools around the world, currently teaching on the Advanced Management Programme at INSEAD. William designs and leads bespoke rituals for individuals. He is available for one-to-one coaching online.

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